I have had a new moment in grief, today while watching a television show. I watched this woman come to terms with the loss of her husband. She was a particularly good actress because it brought back a moment in my grief that ambushed me. I realized my feelings at the time, the moment I knew I was alone, for me this came well after Martha was buried.
Did you know that if you love someone, you will grieve the loss of that person? It is love that causes us to notice the loss, and if you think it will not affect you then you are mistaken. Grief comes from the loss of anything you love, it can even be your job, an animal, an object. If you loved that person or thing a lot, it hurts even more so you grieve that loss. Grief diminishes, life goes on, but unfortunately grief only diminishes. So, when you have one of these moments try to remember the good times you had together instead of the moment grief tries to bring up. This is one of the ways I deal with grief.
I want to tell you everyone grieves the same; I unfortunately can not do this, because I would be lying. People grieve on different timelines and in different ways some do not visibly show grief they bury their emotions. These people are the ones in the most danger of lashing out at others, however it may be days or years before it consumes them. But make no mistake they will grieve, and it will affect who they are period.
Some people move through grief rapidly, does this mean they loved the person or spouse less? No, it does not, I will tell you that I grieved my wife far before the day of her death. This is because in the back of my mind, I knew there was the risk of her passing away because of what the doctors kept saying, as well as my own research. Life is so short people, so live it well put your faith in God the father for he will enrich your life.
Love you all in Jesus name
T.Scott.Kisler 