Time heals all wounds?

  Yes, it does, how much time it takes, I am not completely sure of I am told it will be determined by what you are willing to admit and let go of. So, here is some questions for all of you, number one, Are you in denial of the wound? If you lose a leg and you deny it is gone when you try to stand up, you will fall. This can be very true for every wound, including the loss of a loved one, or even a traumatic event. Denying those wounds is the first thing anyone would do, but it will not allow you to heal. Denial of an event does not let you move past that event, it does however mess with your mental state. I personally know that this is not good for you or anyone around you. This may be the hardest thing you will ever admit to, it may even cause you great emotional pain. Healing only starts when you begin to realize the truth, admit to yourself that it happened. Then you can move to the next question.

  Number two; are you holding on to anger, are you angry at the traumatic event or person who caused you pain. If you are then you are really damaging yourself and those around you. I know how hard it is to deal with the anger from loss. I also watched Martha deal with this, in ways I cannot talk about because it would betray her, even though Martha is in heaven now. Did you ever think of, how it was possible for Jesus to take all that terrible talk about him? The pain he endured both verbal and physical, it was intense degrading and all by the people he came to save. Then to allow himself to be placed on a cross, which by the way, was considered a curse of insurmountable proportions. He and his father allowed it, then forgave us all. If you can find my train of thought you would see that if God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, can forgive all the people who did those things to Jesus. Then how can we not forgive those who hurt us, or even ourselves. Why hold on to pain that prevents moving forward, I don’t know why. We as humans often spend most of our time remembering past hurts, past scars, instead of moving forward. The absolute truth is we do not need to do this, but pain sears the memory into us humans. This is so we learn from it, just like children when they touch a hot item, learn not to do that again. If you cut yourself it might leave a scar, when you look at that scar you remember when it happened. You might even remember how painful it was, this is normal, but the cut healed didn’t it. The pain is gone now you must let the anger go forgive who you must, then move on. I know it’s hard, I left a job because I was angry, not at the job at the loss of my wife. I know that’s not the same, right? Well that is wrong, it is the same, I had to recognize my anger for what it was. The loss of my wife caused me to be angry, at her, at God, at myself, and everyone around me. This was what I was referring to earlier, I did great damage to myself by holding on to that anger. Now that I let that go, I can move forward. You will be able to move forward too if you admit to yourself, that you are angry then deal with that anger. I will continue this soon till then think on these things will you.

Love in Christ