The grieving Husband

For twenty-four years I was with the most wonderful woman ever, she asked me out after multiple attempts by me to find out if she was married, had kids or was even interested in dating. I just was so shy I could not find a way to ask her, so she asked me. That first night we hit it off so well that I got scared for a moment, then I chose to stay in the relationship. Mainly because She stood up and called me out on my male stupidity which is why I knew I wanted to be married to her.

We started to date in June 1994, I asked her to marry me in September 1994, we were married on March 25^th, 1995, had our first child on February 6^th, 1996. Wow it was a moving so fast, but we made it 24 years of ups and downs the first had crossed eyes and had to have surgery several times. We moved to the Stillwater area and our second child was born July 29^th, 1999 He was born with a hole in his heart as well as asthma, our third child was born July 5^th, 2001 She had no issues. I was working for Subsite electronics a subsidiary of Ditch Witch when Joshua was born, then I was laid off from Ditch witch and unemployment was not enough to pay the bills.

Martha just kept on loving me and I just kept falling more in love with her each year. She could come up with the quickest responses to just about anything and when she was in pain or sad you would never know it(even though I knew); she would just make a joke about it. This was My wife She was more than amazing. When you are married it is important to completely understand the statement in sickness or in health, richer or poorer. “When you love someone, it does not matter if they are rich, poor, sick or healthy it only matters that they love you back” that is the most important part. Martha and I were not the best at making the right decision when it came down to it, we were always chasing the money, which was always the wrong decision. Right before Martha died She and I decided we would never chase money again Money does not buy happiness, nor does it fix any issues you may have. Martha and I were always closer when things were not going well, this was some of the glue that reminded us we needed each other.

Martha hated to be on a budget, and I hated not having money, so I kept trying to find the increase in funds that would keep us afloat as well as keep us off a budget. I did try to get us on a budget, and it went so well for a while we were even able to buy a home after being forced to sell one. Then we bought two new vehicles after I was promoted, we hit some very bumpy roads I had an allergic reaction to a blood pressure medicine then a few years later a heart attack, then Martha had her first stroke, this forced us into bankruptcy nearly losing everything. But we survived all those things just before she died we had completed our bankruptcy. I lost her to a genetic disorder that my children will have to look out for, even though she was sick it did not diminish my love for her and it did not change her love for me. “love is not just a feeling it is a commitment to a person, even when you might not like them at the time, or like the situation you are in. When they seem irrational or angry at you, you stay because they complete you”. Martha loved me and I loved her she could have hated me for my screwups and I could have hated her for her angry outburst (which no one outside of this house ever saw), I could have hated her for not wanting to be on a budget, She could have hated me for taking the job in Louisiana but she didn’t, we continued to love each other. When the strokes had gotten so bad I took a job that I did not want so I could come home to take care of her. Love is that willing to drop everything for your love.

This Love is demonstrated throughout the Bible you just have to look.